I recently shared a post about the power of surrender, and I wanted to expand on that thought here. It took me a long time to truly understand what it meant to surrender, and even longer to embrace it fully. Looking back, I now see how necessary it was for my growth, though at the time, I couldn't understand why God was leading me down this path.
The Call to Detach
Before COVID—back in 2019—I kept hearing the word "detach." I understood the definition, of course, but I didn't fully grasp what it meant for me. I assumed it was about people, but I wasn’t sure which people or why. As time went on, life revealed the answers to me. People began to show themselves in ways that made it clear I needed to let go.
As an empath, detaching was not easy. I feel everything—people’s words, their energy, and even the unspoken emotions between their sentences. I understand what isn’t being said just as much as what is. I used to think I needed to change that part of myself, but I realized I didn’t want to. Instead, I needed to learn how to detach from absorbing others' emotions as my own.
A Natural Listener and Healer
For as long as I can remember, people have found it easy to open up to me—especially my clients. Many hairstylists experience this, but for me, it felt deeper. My mother once wanted me to go into the medical field, and while I didn’t follow that path, I’ve always been drawn to the human mind and spirit. Psychology fascinated me; understanding people and their choices became a passion. In many ways, I ended up doing the work of a healer—just in a different setting.
As I reflected on this journey, I received spiritual downloads—insights into my upbringing, my patterns, and my calling. It all led me to surrender.
Breaking Free from Expectations
Detaching wasn’t just about people; it was also about the expectations others placed on me. I had spent so much time trying to live up to others’ perceptions of who I should be. But surrendering meant embracing who I truly was—not the labels, not the roles, just me.
Once I let go of those expectations, I saw how interconnected we all are. I recognized that I am both uniquely me and a part of the larger divine consciousness that flows through us all. Surrendering to that truth brought me a new sense of peace and acceptance.
The Master Reset
When COVID happened, it became a "master reset" for many of us. I stepped back from social media, not consuming as much of what others were projecting. It was like turning off a TV that had been shaping my perception of reality. I started to ask myself: *What does my ideal, peaceful life look like?*
We often take on so many identities—layers of expectations, societal influences, curated online personas. But who are we without all of that? Stripping away those layers allowed me to see myself more clearly.
The Beauty of Surrender
Through surrender, I discovered the immense guidance available to me—from God, from my intuition, from my ancestors. At times, life seemed to be falling apart, but in hindsight, I see that I was being guided all along. Even in uncertainty, I had to trust the unfolding process.
It reminded me of the scripture: “The Lord replied, my precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you saw only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.”
When we reach our weakest moments, that is when we truly surrender. And in surrendering, we allow divine guidance to lead us to a place of ease and flow.
Clarity Through Surrender
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that I don’t move without clarity anymore. I might take steps in different directions, testing the waters, but I no longer force anything. When clarity comes, I know it’s time to move forward. Until then, I wait, trusting that the right path will reveal itself.
This shift has allowed me to detach from how I *think* things should happen and instead surrender to how God *knows* they should unfold. And in that surrender, I have found peace.
Final Thoughts
I share this with you because I know so many of us are in seasons of transition, questioning why things aren’t working out as we planned. But what if, instead of resisting, we surrendered? What if we detached from old narratives and trusted the divine unfolding of our journey?
Surrender isn’t about giving up—it’s about letting go of control so that we can receive the abundance, guidance, and miracles meant for us.
I invite you to reflect on what surrender might look like in your own life. What do you need to detach from? Where is life nudging you to trust instead of control? Let’s journey together in this space of surrender and divine alignment.
With love and intention,
Jenise Mc. 🌟
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